What is Divorce Counselling?
Divorce counselling can be a very difficult experience. It is sometimes seen as the last resort of a desperate spouse who feels unable to cope with the stresses and strains of a divorce, or maybe it’s seen as a “last ditch” effort by an unfaithful partner who just wants to end the marriage and avoid a stressful event that may lead to divorce. But in reality, divorce counselling is not only about ending a relationship and moving on; divorce counselling is also about healing the wounds that have been caused during the course of your relationship and improving communication skills so that the relationship can be redefined and brought back into a positive force once again. The process may be long and hard but it is worth it to have a healthier and more fulfilling marriage after the divorce.
Find a Trained Divorce Counsellor
When considering counselling, whether it is for yourself or a family member you should first seek out a trained professional who has expertise in all areas of the family. You will also want to find a person with a compassionate and understanding disposition. In addition to your personal issues, you will probably have other concerns such as financial strain, custody battles, property division and visitation rights. You should be able to speak honestly with the counsellor and come to an informed and reasonable agreement on the course of action you should take going forward.
Divorce Counselling and Children
If you have children involved in the divorce proceedings then it may be wise to look into divorce counselling as well. Your children are likely to be affected emotionally as well as financially, so it is important that they are able to see you working things out and dealing with your divorce. They should know that you are working hard to keep them safe and that you are working diligently to rebuild your relationship. Unfortunately situations do happen where one spouse ends the marriage and the children do not receive any type of custody, visitation or support from the other parent. It is important for parents to make efforts to rekindle a dying relationship, which can go a long way towards healing a rift in a marriage.